DON'T BLAME THE LETTUCE.
From Days of Naze (http://naze.net):
june 19, 2002
blaming never helps
"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce."
Well said.
Jun 26, 2002
MEET MY NEEDS
Part of the company took this class yesterday about Communicating Effectively, and one of the main points was that you communicate ASSERTIVELY, so that your needs are met, and the other party's needs are met. The class was pretty lame in and of itself, but had the messages been delivered clearly, they would have been good ones. As clear, and assertive as you may be, there are still times when your needs will not be met, and you are not entirely at fault because, obviously, there is another person involved here, and they could be as passive as the next bitch in detouring around what you ask for. Many times, it's something seemingly simple to you, but difficult for others. It's hard to maneuver between being assertive and aggressive so that the lines of communication can stay open and easy--and something that I need to work on.
Part of the company took this class yesterday about Communicating Effectively, and one of the main points was that you communicate ASSERTIVELY, so that your needs are met, and the other party's needs are met. The class was pretty lame in and of itself, but had the messages been delivered clearly, they would have been good ones. As clear, and assertive as you may be, there are still times when your needs will not be met, and you are not entirely at fault because, obviously, there is another person involved here, and they could be as passive as the next bitch in detouring around what you ask for. Many times, it's something seemingly simple to you, but difficult for others. It's hard to maneuver between being assertive and aggressive so that the lines of communication can stay open and easy--and something that I need to work on.
Jun 24, 2002
MINORITY REPORT
This movie was cool. It's based on an idea called PreCrime. The precogs see the murders we will commit, and the PreCrime department (futuristic cops) stops them from happening before they would happen. It's a twist on an old play, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern, some Tom Stoppard material that I learned in English class in high school, which stated that we always have a choice, but ultimately, the choices made are meaningless and we end up where we were going to end up anyway. But in the future, as in this flick, we can change the inevitable before it happens. Interesting stuff.
This movie was cool. It's based on an idea called PreCrime. The precogs see the murders we will commit, and the PreCrime department (futuristic cops) stops them from happening before they would happen. It's a twist on an old play, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern, some Tom Stoppard material that I learned in English class in high school, which stated that we always have a choice, but ultimately, the choices made are meaningless and we end up where we were going to end up anyway. But in the future, as in this flick, we can change the inevitable before it happens. Interesting stuff.
Jun 23, 2002
HITCHED
Wedding celebrations are funny. A huge celebration to show your friends and family how much you love someone. There are all of these random people--relatives and friends-- thrown into a room together for a night, carrying on conversation that begins by mapping out their six degrees of separation. The happy couple still awake and churning on into the night from the adrenaline of the first time they are no longer single, involuntarity having details of their personal life disclosed to a hundred others because the best man had too much to drink before his toast. And the entire day could cost an easy 60 G's. The price of a nice luxury car. Still, above all of this nonsense lies the real reason everyone showed up: two people are in love with each other and have promised each other this love for the rest of their lives. It IS a big deal. Weddings never fail to serve as a reminder that love exists. The best of luck to Rita and Colin.
Wedding celebrations are funny. A huge celebration to show your friends and family how much you love someone. There are all of these random people--relatives and friends-- thrown into a room together for a night, carrying on conversation that begins by mapping out their six degrees of separation. The happy couple still awake and churning on into the night from the adrenaline of the first time they are no longer single, involuntarity having details of their personal life disclosed to a hundred others because the best man had too much to drink before his toast. And the entire day could cost an easy 60 G's. The price of a nice luxury car. Still, above all of this nonsense lies the real reason everyone showed up: two people are in love with each other and have promised each other this love for the rest of their lives. It IS a big deal. Weddings never fail to serve as a reminder that love exists. The best of luck to Rita and Colin.
Jun 22, 2002
TRIX ARE FOR KIDS
It would be so great if we could take care of our responsibilities as an adult and yet still live like a kid. I was watching this little boy the other day who spotted a butterfly that had just flown by us. He yelled out to me with big eyes "Look! A but-ter-fly!" like it was the neatest thing that has ever happened. Every cell in his little body was focused on this butterfly's path, and it wasn't until the little white butterfly was out of sight did he return to the task that he was doing before: throwing grass into the wind and letting it hit his face as he burst into laughter. What it would be like to be a kid again...Life was so simple, things we did had no name. They were just fun, and they made us happy. Whatever we need to take us back to the simpler things in life, let's do them, get them, observe them, soak in them, bask in them, love them. Love them all.
It would be so great if we could take care of our responsibilities as an adult and yet still live like a kid. I was watching this little boy the other day who spotted a butterfly that had just flown by us. He yelled out to me with big eyes "Look! A but-ter-fly!" like it was the neatest thing that has ever happened. Every cell in his little body was focused on this butterfly's path, and it wasn't until the little white butterfly was out of sight did he return to the task that he was doing before: throwing grass into the wind and letting it hit his face as he burst into laughter. What it would be like to be a kid again...Life was so simple, things we did had no name. They were just fun, and they made us happy. Whatever we need to take us back to the simpler things in life, let's do them, get them, observe them, soak in them, bask in them, love them. Love them all.
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